Merge dialogue session persistence

Vikunja #363. The follow-up session was a plain in-memory map, so any
mavend restart dropped the thread. It now mirrors to a small TTL-pruned
sqlite table and is loaded on startup; expired sessions are deleted on
load, not revived. Clarify's pending question is untouched.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01CGeSZxh1DCtRxmFVSYVGvJ

PHRASING-EVAL-31-07-2026.md

@@ -105,11 +105,14 @@ that never says food.
 
 ## Broken, found, not fixed
 
-1. **`checkFeminine` only catches half the constraint.** It scans for masculine
-   self-reference and passed 15/15 both runs — but three messages address the *owner* in
-   the feminine: "ты давно не отдыхал**а**", "он не ел". The owner is a man. The check has
-   no second-person gender test, so this scores clean while being exactly the persona
-   failure the constraint exists to prevent. This is the most important gap in the harness.
+1. ~~**`checkFeminine` only catches half the constraint.**~~ **Fixed** (#381). It scanned for
+   masculine self-reference only, so three messages that addressed the *owner* in the feminine
+   ("ты давно не отдыхал**а**") scored clean. There is now a second check, `hisgender`: a
+   feminine past-tense verb (-ла/-лась) in a sentence addressed to him ("ты", "тебе", "твой")
+   fails, unless the verb is hers ("я заметила", "напомнила тебе"). It is a suffix rule, not a
+   parser — see the comment in `checks.go` for what it misses. A fresh 15-case run after adding
+   it scored **12/15** with `hisgender` 15/15; the model did not repeat the feminine address in
+   that sample, and the check is pinned by unit tests on the recorded bad strings instead.
 2. **Grammar is not checked at all, and it is bad.** `"Он не ел 11 дней"` (it was 11 hours),
    `"Сонуждились 7 дней"` (not a word), `"Они забыли воду"` (wrong person entirely). Every
    one of these passes all six checks. The fixture measures properties, not fluency, and at
@@ -125,8 +128,7 @@ that never says food.
 
 ## Next steps
 
-1. **Add a second-person gender check** to `checks.go`. Finding 1 above. Until it exists the
-   feminine column means less than it looks like.
+1. ~~**Add a second-person gender check**~~ — done, `hisgender` in `checks.go` (#381).
 2. **Decide whether the fallback should count as a pass.** Right now `Score` cannot tell a
    model answer from a fallback. Either mark fallback bodies in `PhrasedNudge` or count them
    in their own column. Without that, any future prompt change can score well by failing

cmd/mavend/clarify.go

@@ -45,6 +45,40 @@ var clarifyQuestions = map[dialogue.Slot]string{
 // landed. Feminine self-reference ("поняла"), as everywhere.
 const clarifyGaveUp = "Прости, я не поняла. Скажи, пожалуйста, по-другому."
 
+// clarifyExpired — his answer came after the TTL, so the parked request is
+// already gone. Same tone as clarifyGaveUp, different reason: too much time
+// passed, not "I did not understand". Feminine self-reference ("ждала",
+// "отпустила"); he is addressed with a plain imperative.
+const clarifyExpired = "Прости, я слишком долго ждала ответа и отпустила прошлую просьбу. Если она ещё нужна, скажи заново."
+
+// clarifyExpiredNotice returns that line when a parked question had just timed
+// out, and "" when nothing was parked. Call it right after
+// resolveClarifyAnswer: a live question is answered there, an expired one is
+// only reported here — the words themselves still go on to be routed fresh.
+func (h *reactiveHandler) clarifyExpiredNotice() string {
+	if h.clarifyStore == nil {
+		return ""
+	}
+	if !h.clarifyStore.TakeExpired(voiceDialogueID, h.now()) {
+		return ""
+	}
+	log.Printf("voice: clarify — parked question expired, telling him and routing the words fresh")
+	return clarifyExpired
+}
+
+// withNotice glues the expiry notice in front of this turn's reply. One turn
+// carries one reply on the wire, so the notice cannot be a message of its own —
+// but neither the notice nor the fresh answer may be dropped.
+func withNotice(notice, reply string) string {
+	if notice == "" {
+		return reply
+	}
+	if reply == "" {
+		return notice
+	}
+	return notice + " " + reply
+}
+
 // missingFor returns the slots a decision still needs, most important first.
 // Empty ⇒ there is nothing identifiable to ask about.
 func missingFor(dec router.Decision) []dialogue.Slot {

cmd/mavend/clarify_test.go

@@ -289,6 +289,36 @@ func TestNoQuestionWhenNothingIsMissing(t *testing.T) {
 	}
 }
 
+// TestClarifyExpiryIsAnnouncedAndWordsStillRoute — his answer lands after the
+// TTL: she must say the old request is gone AND still answer the new words.
+func TestClarifyExpiryIsAnnouncedAndWordsStillRoute(t *testing.T) {
+	ctx := context.Background()
+	h, _, now := newClarifyHandler(t)
+	emb := router.NewHashEmbedder(1024)
+	h.embedder = emb
+	h.router = buildRouter(emb, h.matcher, 0.55, nil)
+
+	if _, asked := h.askClarify(clarifyDec(router.IntentReminder, router.Slots{Text: "напомни"}, "напомни")); !asked {
+		t.Fatal("expected a question")
+	}
+	*now = now.Add(clarifyTTL + time.Second)
+
+	reply := h.handleText(ctx, "как дела")
+	if !strings.HasPrefix(reply, clarifyExpired) {
+		t.Fatalf("expired question must be announced first, got %q", reply)
+	}
+	if strings.TrimSpace(strings.TrimPrefix(reply, clarifyExpired)) == "" {
+		t.Fatalf("the new words must still be answered, got only the notice: %q", reply)
+	}
+	if h.clarifyStore.Get(voiceDialogueID, h.now()) != nil {
+		t.Fatal("the expired question must be gone")
+	}
+	// The notice is said once, not on every later utterance.
+	if reply := h.handleText(ctx, "как дела"); strings.Contains(reply, clarifyExpired) {
+		t.Fatalf("notice repeated on a later turn: %q", reply)
+	}
+}
+
 // TestNoPendingQuestionFallsThrough — with nothing parked, an utterance routes
 // normally.
 func TestNoPendingQuestionFallsThrough(t *testing.T) {

cmd/mavend/voice.go

@@ -227,7 +227,18 @@ func wireVoice(cfg *config.Config, coreAPI ipc.CoreAPI, phr phraser.Phraser, mem
 	}
 
 	// ----- dialogue (multi-turn slot carry-over; 2-min follow-up window) -----
-	dialogueSessions := dialogue.NewSessionStore(2 * time.Minute)
+	// Store-backed when the daemon passes a store, so a restart mid-conversation
+	// keeps the thread (Vikunja #363). Sessions past their TTL are dropped on
+	// load, never revived. Clarify's parked question stays in memory only.
+	var dialogueSessions *dialogue.SessionStore
+	if dataStore != nil {
+		dialogueSessions = dialogue.NewPersistentSessionStore(2*time.Minute, dataStore)
+		if err := dialogueSessions.Load(context.Background(), time.Now()); err != nil {
+			log.Printf("dialogue: load saved sessions: %v", err)
+		}
+	} else {
+		dialogueSessions = dialogue.NewSessionStore(2 * time.Minute)
+	}
 	clarifyStore := dialogue.NewClarifyStore(clarifyTTL)
 	timeParser := router.NewPythonDateParser()
 
@@ -402,9 +413,17 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) HandlePushToTalk(ctx context.Context, req voice.PushTo
 		return h.reply(ctx, reply, nil)
 	}
 
-	// 1b2. clarify answer — if she asked a question last turn, this utterance is
-	// its answer, not a fresh command. After the confirm check: a y/n gate is
-	// armed by her own prompt and is the narrower claim on the utterance.
+	// 1b2. expired clarify — a question was parked but its TTL ran out, so the
+	// request behind it is gone. Say that out loud (see clarify.go) and carry
+	// on: these words are still routed as a fresh utterance below, with the
+	// notice glued in front of whatever the fresh routing answers. Checked
+	// BEFORE the answer path: reading a parked question drops an expired one.
+	expiredNotice := h.clarifyExpiredNotice()
+
+	// 1b3. clarify answer — if she asked a live question last turn, this
+	// utterance is its answer, not a fresh command. After the confirm check: a
+	// y/n gate is armed by her own prompt and is the narrower claim on the
+	// utterance.
 	if reply, handled := h.resolveClarifyAnswer(ctx, text); handled {
 		return h.reply(ctx, reply, nil)
 	}
@@ -414,7 +433,7 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) HandlePushToTalk(ctx context.Context, req voice.PushTo
 	// unreliably (it's a command, not a free-form query), so we match it
 	// before routing. Same pattern as the confirm turn above.
 	if reply, handled := h.resolveQuietToggle(ctx, text); handled {
-		return h.reply(ctx, reply, nil)
+		return h.reply(ctx, withNotice(expiredNotice, reply), nil)
 	}
 
 	// 2. router — classify the utterance.
@@ -423,10 +442,10 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) HandlePushToTalk(ctx context.Context, req voice.PushTo
 		// ErrNoIntents ⇒ classifier unseeded (cold boot). reply with a
 		// "still warming up" rather than a wire error.
 		if errors.Is(err, router.ErrNoIntents) {
-			return h.reply(ctx, "я ещё не понимаю свободную речь — скоро научусь.", nil)
+			return h.reply(ctx, withNotice(expiredNotice, "я ещё не понимаю свободную речь — скоро научусь."), nil)
 		}
 		log.Printf("voice: router error: %v", err)
-		return h.reply(ctx, "не получилось разобрать команду.", nil)
+		return h.reply(ctx, withNotice(expiredNotice, "не получилось разобрать команду."), nil)
 	}
 
 	// 2b. dialogue — fill this turn's missing slots from a prior same-intent
@@ -447,7 +466,7 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) HandlePushToTalk(ctx context.Context, req voice.PushTo
 	// stands.
 	if dec.Clarify {
 		if question, asked := h.askClarify(dec); asked {
-			return h.reply(ctx, question, nil)
+			return h.reply(ctx, withNotice(expiredNotice, question), nil)
 		}
 	}
 
@@ -463,7 +482,7 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) HandlePushToTalk(ctx context.Context, req voice.PushTo
 
 	// 5. tts — synthesise the reply text; return to the voice server which
 	// ships it back on the conn.
-	return h.reply(ctx, replyText, nil)
+	return h.reply(ctx, withNotice(expiredNotice, replyText), nil)
 }
 
 // handleText — the core reactive path without stt/tts: confirm check →
@@ -478,7 +497,9 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) handleText(ctx context.Context, text string) string {
 		return reply
 	}
 
-	// 1b2. clarify answer — same check as HandlePushToTalk.
+	// 1b2/1b3. expired clarify then clarify answer — same order and reasons as
+	// HandlePushToTalk.
+	expiredNotice := h.clarifyExpiredNotice()
 	if reply, handled := h.resolveClarifyAnswer(ctx, text); handled {
 		return reply
 	}
@@ -487,10 +508,10 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) handleText(ctx context.Context, text string) string {
 	dec, err := h.router.Route(ctx, text, h.now())
 	if err != nil {
 		if errors.Is(err, router.ErrNoIntents) {
-			return "я ещё не понимаю свободную речь — скоро научусь."
+			return withNotice(expiredNotice, "я ещё не понимаю свободную речь — скоро научусь.")
 		}
 		log.Printf("voice: handleText router error: %v", err)
-		return "не получилось разобрать команду."
+		return withNotice(expiredNotice, "не получилось разобрать команду.")
 	}
 	log.Printf("voice: route result: intent=%s slots=%+v", dec.Intent, dec.Slots)
 
@@ -507,7 +528,7 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) handleText(ctx context.Context, text string) string {
 	// 2c. clarify — same as HandlePushToTalk: ask about the one missing thing.
 	if dec.Clarify {
 		if question, asked := h.askClarify(dec); asked {
-			return question
+			return withNotice(expiredNotice, question)
 		}
 	}
 
@@ -519,7 +540,7 @@ func (h *reactiveHandler) handleText(ctx context.Context, text string) string {
 	if replyText == "" {
 		replyText = h.replier.Reply(dec)
 	}
-	return replyText
+	return withNotice(expiredNotice, replyText)
 }
 
 // applyAction — executes the router's Decision. Intent-by-intent:

internal/dialogue/clarify.go

@@ -100,6 +100,21 @@ func (s *ClarifyStore) Get(id string, now time.Time) *PendingQuestion {
 	return q
 }
 
+// TakeExpired reports whether a question was parked here but its TTL ran out,
+// and drops it. Get drops such a question silently, which leaves the user
+// thinking his request is still alive — the caller uses this to tell him it is
+// gone before treating his words as a fresh utterance.
+func (s *ClarifyStore) TakeExpired(id string, now time.Time) bool {
+	s.mu.Lock()
+	defer s.mu.Unlock()
+	q, ok := s.questions[id]
+	if !ok || !q.IsExpired(now) {
+		return false
+	}
+	delete(s.questions, id)
+	return true
+}
+
 func (s *ClarifyStore) Delete(id string) {
 	s.mu.Lock()
 	delete(s.questions, id)

internal/dialogue/clarify_test.go

@@ -60,6 +60,28 @@ func TestClarifyStoreGetPutDelete(t *testing.T) {
 	}
 }
 
+// TestClarifyStoreTakeExpired — TakeExpired reports (and drops) only a question
+// whose TTL ran out.
+func TestClarifyStoreTakeExpired(t *testing.T) {
+	s := NewClarifyStore(time.Minute)
+	if s.TakeExpired("voice", base) {
+		t.Fatal("nothing parked ⇒ nothing expired")
+	}
+	s.Put("voice", &PendingQuestion{Missing: []Slot{SlotTime}, Asked: base, TTL: time.Minute})
+	if s.TakeExpired("voice", base.Add(30*time.Second)) {
+		t.Fatal("a live question must not report as expired")
+	}
+	if s.Get("voice", base.Add(30*time.Second)) == nil {
+		t.Fatal("a live question must survive TakeExpired")
+	}
+	if !s.TakeExpired("voice", base.Add(2*time.Minute)) {
+		t.Fatal("a stale question must report as expired")
+	}
+	if s.TakeExpired("voice", base.Add(2*time.Minute)) {
+		t.Fatal("TakeExpired must drop the question, so the second call is false")
+	}
+}
+
 func TestNewClarifyStoreDefaultTTL(t *testing.T) {
 	s := NewClarifyStore(0)
 	q := &PendingQuestion{Asked: base}

internal/dialogue/session.go

@@ -1,8 +1,12 @@
 package dialogue
 
 import (
+	"context"
+	"encoding/json"
 	"sync"
 	"time"
+
+	"github.com/kami/maven/internal/store"
 )
 
 type Intent string
@@ -50,10 +54,22 @@ func (s *Session) IsExpired(now time.Time) bool {
 	return now.After(s.Timestamp.Add(s.TTL))
 }
 
+// SessionPersister — the bit of the store the session needs, as an interface
+// so tests can swap it out. Data is an opaque blob: the store never looks
+// inside, we encode the session as JSON here.
+type SessionPersister interface {
+	SaveDialogueSession(ctx context.Context, id string, data []byte, ts time.Time, ttl time.Duration) error
+	DeleteDialogueSession(ctx context.Context, id string) error
+	LoadDialogueSessions(ctx context.Context, now time.Time) ([]store.DialogueSessionRow, error)
+}
+
+// SessionStore keeps the live sessions in a map (the fast path) and mirrors
+// every write to the persister, so a daemon restart can load them back.
 type SessionStore struct {
 	mu         sync.RWMutex
 	sessions   map[string]*Session
 	defaultTTL time.Duration
+	persist    SessionPersister // may be nil: memory only (tests, no-store paths)
 }
 
 func NewSessionStore(defaultTTL time.Duration) *SessionStore {
@@ -66,6 +82,43 @@ func NewSessionStore(defaultTTL time.Duration) *SessionStore {
 	}
 }
 
+// NewPersistentSessionStore — same store, but writes also go to the DB.
+// Call Load once after this to bring back sessions from a previous run.
+func NewPersistentSessionStore(defaultTTL time.Duration, p SessionPersister) *SessionStore {
+	s := NewSessionStore(defaultTTL)
+	s.persist = p
+	return s
+}
+
+// Load — read the saved sessions back into memory. Anything past its TTL is
+// dropped (and deleted from the DB by the store), never revived.
+func (s *SessionStore) Load(ctx context.Context, now time.Time) error {
+	if s.persist == nil {
+		return nil
+	}
+	rows, err := s.persist.LoadDialogueSessions(ctx, now)
+	if err != nil {
+		return err
+	}
+	s.mu.Lock()
+	defer s.mu.Unlock()
+	for _, r := range rows {
+		var sess Session
+		if err := json.Unmarshal(r.Data, &sess); err != nil {
+			// A blob we can't read is not worth failing a startup over.
+			continue
+		}
+		if sess.TTL <= 0 {
+			sess.TTL = r.TTL
+		}
+		if sess.IsExpired(now) {
+			continue
+		}
+		s.sessions[r.ID] = &sess
+	}
+	return nil
+}
+
 func (s *SessionStore) Get(id string, now time.Time) *Session {
 	s.mu.RLock()
 	sess, ok := s.sessions[id]
@@ -87,12 +140,33 @@ func (s *SessionStore) Put(id string, sess *Session) {
 	s.mu.Lock()
 	s.sessions[id] = sess
 	s.mu.Unlock()
+	s.save(id, sess)
 }
 
 func (s *SessionStore) Delete(id string) {
 	s.mu.Lock()
 	delete(s.sessions, id)
 	s.mu.Unlock()
+	if s.persist != nil {
+		_ = s.persist.DeleteDialogueSession(context.Background(), id)
+	}
+}
+
+// save — mirror one session to the DB. Best effort: memory already has it, so
+// a write error costs us the restart safety net, not the current turn.
+func (s *SessionStore) save(id string, sess *Session) {
+	if s.persist == nil {
+		return
+	}
+	data, err := json.Marshal(sess)
+	if err != nil {
+		return
+	}
+	ts := sess.Timestamp
+	if ts.IsZero() {
+		ts = time.Now()
+	}
+	_ = s.persist.SaveDialogueSession(context.Background(), id, data, ts, sess.TTL)
 }
 
 func InheritSlots(prev, cur Slots) Slots {

internal/dialogue/session_persist_test.go

@@ -0,0 +1,118 @@
+package dialogue
+
+import (
+	"context"
+	"path/filepath"
+	"testing"
+	"time"
+
+	"github.com/kami/maven/internal/store"
+)
+
+// openStore — a store on disk, so a second handle can reopen the same file.
+func openStore(t *testing.T, path string) *store.Store {
+	t.Helper()
+	s, err := store.Open(context.Background(), path)
+	if err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("open store: %v", err)
+	}
+	t.Cleanup(func() { _ = s.Close() })
+	return s
+}
+
+// A session written before a restart comes back and still merges a follow-up.
+func TestSessionSurvivesRestart(t *testing.T) {
+	ctx := context.Background()
+	path := filepath.Join(t.TempDir(), "maven_test.db")
+	now := time.Now().UTC().Truncate(time.Millisecond)
+
+	first := openStore(t, path)
+	before := NewPersistentSessionStore(2*time.Minute, first)
+	before.Put("voice", &Session{
+		Intent:    IntentReminder,
+		Slots:     Slots{Text: "полить цветы", Time: now.Add(time.Hour), HasTime: true},
+		Timestamp: now,
+		TTL:       2 * time.Minute,
+	})
+	if err := first.Close(); err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("close: %v", err)
+	}
+
+	// fresh handle, fresh in-memory map — as after a daemon restart
+	after := openStore(t, path)
+	reloaded := NewPersistentSessionStore(2*time.Minute, after)
+	if err := reloaded.Load(ctx, now.Add(10*time.Second)); err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("Load: %v", err)
+	}
+	sess := reloaded.Get("voice", now.Add(10*time.Second))
+	if sess == nil {
+		t.Fatal("session did not survive the restart")
+	}
+	if sess.Intent != IntentReminder {
+		t.Fatalf("intent = %q, want reminder", sess.Intent)
+	}
+	// the follow-up carries no text of its own; it must inherit the old one
+	merged := InheritSlots(sess.Slots, Slots{Time: now.Add(2 * time.Hour), HasTime: true})
+	if merged.Text != "полить цветы" {
+		t.Fatalf("merged text = %q, want the earlier turn's text", merged.Text)
+	}
+	if !merged.Time.Equal(now.Add(2 * time.Hour)) {
+		t.Fatalf("merged time = %v, want the follow-up's time", merged.Time)
+	}
+}
+
+// A session past its TTL is dead: a restart must not bring it back.
+func TestExpiredSessionNotResurrected(t *testing.T) {
+	ctx := context.Background()
+	path := filepath.Join(t.TempDir(), "maven_test.db")
+	now := time.Now().UTC().Truncate(time.Millisecond)
+
+	first := openStore(t, path)
+	before := NewPersistentSessionStore(2*time.Minute, first)
+	before.Put("voice", &Session{
+		Intent:    IntentReminder,
+		Slots:     Slots{Text: "полить цветы"},
+		Timestamp: now,
+		TTL:       time.Minute,
+	})
+	if err := first.Close(); err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("close: %v", err)
+	}
+
+	after := openStore(t, path)
+	reloaded := NewPersistentSessionStore(2*time.Minute, after)
+	later := now.Add(5 * time.Minute) // well past the 1-min TTL
+	if err := reloaded.Load(ctx, later); err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("Load: %v", err)
+	}
+	if sess := reloaded.Get("voice", later); sess != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("expired session came back: %+v", sess)
+	}
+	// and it is gone from the DB too, not just from memory
+	rows, err := after.LoadDialogueSessions(ctx, later)
+	if err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("LoadDialogueSessions: %v", err)
+	}
+	if len(rows) != 0 {
+		t.Fatalf("expired row still in the DB: %+v", rows)
+	}
+}
+
+// Delete removes the row as well, so an ended conversation stays ended.
+func TestDeleteRemovesPersistedSession(t *testing.T) {
+	ctx := context.Background()
+	path := filepath.Join(t.TempDir(), "maven_test.db")
+	now := time.Now().UTC().Truncate(time.Millisecond)
+
+	s := openStore(t, path)
+	ss := NewPersistentSessionStore(2*time.Minute, s)
+	ss.Put("voice", &Session{Intent: IntentChat, Timestamp: now, TTL: time.Minute})
+	ss.Delete("voice")
+	rows, err := s.LoadDialogueSessions(ctx, now)
+	if err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("LoadDialogueSessions: %v", err)
+	}
+	if len(rows) != 0 {
+		t.Fatalf("row survived Delete: %+v", rows)
+	}
+}

internal/phraser/eval/checks.go

@@ -17,10 +17,14 @@ const (
 	CheckFeminine = "feminine" // her self-reference is feminine (hard constraint)
 	CheckCringe   = "cringe"   // DESIGN.md § Non-goals, "not a relationship"
 	CheckOnTopic  = "ontopic"  // says the thing the rule is about
+
+	// CheckHisGender — the other half of the persona rule: SHE is feminine, HE
+	// is male. "ты давно не отдыхала" addresses the operator as a woman.
+	CheckHisGender = "hisgender"
 )
 
 // CheckNames — report order.
-var CheckNames = []string{CheckMood, CheckLang, CheckLength, CheckFeminine, CheckCringe, CheckOnTopic}
+var CheckNames = []string{CheckMood, CheckLang, CheckLength, CheckFeminine, CheckHisGender, CheckCringe, CheckOnTopic}
 
 // Result — one check on one message.
 type Result struct {
@@ -52,6 +56,7 @@ func RunChecks(c Case, body, mood string) []Result {
 		checkLang(body),
 		checkLength(body),
 		checkFeminine(body),
+		checkHisGender(body),
 		checkCringe(body),
 		checkOnTopic(c, body),
 	}
@@ -176,6 +181,127 @@ func checkFeminine(body string) Result {
 	return Result{CheckFeminine, true, ""}
 }
 
+// --- he is male ----------------------------------------------------------
+//
+// The mirror of checkFeminine, and the failure it was written for: the model
+// wrote "ты давно не отдыхала", which addresses the operator as a woman. That
+// scored clean, because checkFeminine only ever looks at how SHE speaks about
+// herself.
+//
+// How it works: Russian past tense is gendered by suffix, -л (m) / -ла (f). So
+// this looks for feminine past-tense words in a sentence that also talks TO him
+// ("ты", "тебя", "тебе", "твой", …). A feminine verb that belongs to her ("я
+// заметила", "напомнила тебе") is skipped — that one is correct.
+//
+// Honest about the limits: this is a suffix rule, not a parser.
+//   - False positives: a feminine noun can be the subject in the same sentence
+//     ("зарядка была утром, ты её пропустил"). The guard below skips a verb whose
+//     previous word looks like a feminine noun, which helps but will not always
+//     be right.
+//   - False negatives: gender also shows up outside the past tense (short
+//     adjectives, "сама"), and none of that is checked here.
+//
+// That is acceptable for an eval check. It is a signal to read the message, not
+// a grammar verdict, and every hit prints the word it tripped on so a human can
+// disagree.
+
+// hisMarkers — words that mean the sentence is addressed to him.
+var hisMarkers = map[string]bool{
+	"ты": true, "тебя": true, "тебе": true, "тобой": true, "тобою": true,
+	"твой": true, "твоя": true, "твоё": true, "твое": true, "твои": true, "твою": true,
+}
+
+// notFeminineVerb — ordinary words ending in "-ла" that are not verbs. Small on
+// purpose: it only has to cover words a nudge might actually use.
+//
+// Words that are both a noun and a verb are deliberately NOT here. "села",
+// "мыла" and "стекла" are nouns on paper, but in a nudge they are almost always
+// verbs ("ты села", "ты мыла"), and listing them would make the check miss the
+// exact thing it is for. Missing a real hit is worse than one false alarm.
+var notFeminineVerb = map[string]bool{
+	"школа": true, "скала": true, "игла": true, "метла": true, "смола": true,
+	"дела": true, "тела": true, "масла": true, "весла": true,
+	"зола": true, "пчела": true, "числа": true,
+}
+
+// femininePast reports whether a word looks like a feminine past-tense verb:
+// "отдыхала", "поела", "выспалась".
+func femininePast(w string) bool {
+	if len([]rune(w)) < 3 || notFeminineVerb[w] {
+		return false
+	}
+	return strings.HasSuffix(w, "ла") || strings.HasSuffix(w, "лась")
+}
+
+// looksFeminineNoun — a crude guard against "зарядка была": a word right before
+// the verb that ends in "а"/"я" and is not itself a verb is probably the subject.
+func looksFeminineNoun(w string) bool {
+	if femininePast(w) || len([]rune(w)) < 3 {
+		return false
+	}
+	return strings.HasSuffix(w, "а") || strings.HasSuffix(w, "я")
+}
+
+// sentenceRE splits on sentence-ending punctuation, so a feminine verb in one
+// sentence is not blamed on a "ты" in the next.
+var sentenceRE = regexp.MustCompile(`[.!?;…]+`)
+
+func checkHisGender(body string) Result {
+	for _, sentence := range sentenceRE.Split(strings.ToLower(body), -1) {
+		words := wordRE.FindAllString(sentence, -1)
+		addressed := false
+		for _, w := range words {
+			if hisMarkers[w] {
+				addressed = true
+			}
+		}
+		if !addressed {
+			continue
+		}
+		for i, w := range words {
+			if !femininePast(w) || hersNotHis(words, i) {
+				continue
+			}
+			if i > 0 && looksFeminineNoun(prevWord(words, i)) {
+				continue
+			}
+			return Result{CheckHisGender, false,
+				fmt.Sprintf("feminine %q addressed to him — he is male", w)}
+		}
+	}
+	return Result{CheckHisGender, true, ""}
+}
+
+// hersNotHis — the verb is Maven's own if "я" comes shortly before it, or if the
+// thing she did was done to him ("напомнила тебе", "проверила за тебя").
+func hersNotHis(words []string, i int) bool {
+	for j := i - 1; j >= 0 && j >= i-3; j-- {
+		if words[j] == "я" {
+			return true
+		}
+	}
+	if i+1 < len(words) {
+		switch words[i+1] {
+		case "тебе", "тебя", "за", "тобой":
+			return true
+		}
+	}
+	return false
+}
+
+// prevWord — the word before i, skipping "не" and punctuation, so "не отдыхала"
+// still sees the subject.
+func prevWord(words []string, i int) string {
+	for j := i - 1; j >= 0; j-- {
+		w := words[j]
+		if w == "не" || w == "ни" || !unicode.Is(unicode.Cyrillic, []rune(w)[0]) {
+			continue
+		}
+		return w
+	}
+	return ""
+}
+
 // --- the cringe checks ---------------------------------------------------
 //
 // "Think Jarvis without the cringe part". DESIGN.md § Non-goals: "Not a

internal/phraser/eval/eval.go

@@ -281,7 +281,7 @@ func (r Report) String() string {
 	fmt.Fprintf(&b, "%s: %d/%d cases pass every check (%.1f%%), %d errors\n",
 		r.Name, r.Passed, r.Total, 100*r.Accuracy(), r.Errors)
 	for _, name := range CheckNames {
-		fmt.Fprintf(&b, "  %-9s %d/%d\n", name, r.ByCheck[name], r.Total)
+		fmt.Fprintf(&b, "  %-10s %d/%d\n", name, r.ByCheck[name], r.Total)
 	}
 	fmt.Fprintf(&b, "  latency: p50 %s  p95 %s  max %s\n", r.P50, r.P95, r.Max)
 	fmt.Fprintf(&b, "  by rule: %s\n", renderStats(r.ByRule))

internal/phraser/eval/eval_test.go

@@ -72,10 +72,11 @@ func TestStubBaseline(t *testing.T) {
 		// ceiling ("you've been at your desk for 4 hours without a break — step
 		// away for a bit." is 76 chars but 16 words). Left failing rather than
 		// raising the ceiling to hide it.
-		CheckLength:   12,
-		CheckFeminine: 15,
-		CheckCringe:   15,
-		CheckOnTopic:  12,
+		CheckLength:    12,
+		CheckFeminine:  15,
+		CheckHisGender: 15,
+		CheckCringe:    15,
+		CheckOnTopic:   12,
 	}
 	for name, floor := range floors {
 		if rep.ByCheck[name] < floor {
@@ -104,6 +105,14 @@ func TestChecksCatchWhatTheyClaim(t *testing.T) {
 		{"masculine predicative", "я должен сказать: попей воды.", CheckFeminine},
 		// The other direction: HE is male, so second-person masculine is right.
 		{"second person masculine ok", "ты не пил воду четыре часа.", ""},
+		// The real observed failure: she addressed him as a woman.
+		{"feminine second person", "ты давно не отдыхала — попей воды.", CheckHisGender},
+		{"feminine second person no dash", "ты пила воду четыре часа назад.", CheckHisGender},
+		// Her own feminine verb next to "ты" is correct and must not be flagged.
+		{"her feminine verb near ты", "я заметила, что ты не пил воду.", ""},
+		{"her feminine verb about him", "напомнила тебе про воду.", ""},
+		// A feminine noun subject in the same sentence is not him.
+		{"feminine noun subject ok", "зарядка была утром, ты её пропустил, попей воды.", ""},
 		{"feminine self ok", "я заметила: воды не было четыре часа.", ""},
 		{"pet name", "милый, попей воды.", CheckCringe},
 		{"emoji", "попей воды 💧", CheckCringe},

internal/store/dialogue.go

@@ -0,0 +1,74 @@
+package store
+
+import (
+	"context"
+	"fmt"
+	"time"
+)
+
+// DialogueSessionRow — one saved follow-up session. Data is the session
+// encoded by the dialogue package; the store does not look inside it.
+type DialogueSessionRow struct {
+	ID      string
+	Data    []byte
+	Ts      time.Time
+	TTL     time.Duration
+	Expires time.Time
+}
+
+// SaveDialogueSession — write (or replace) the session for one dialogue id.
+// One row per id: a newer turn overwrites the older state.
+func (s *Store) SaveDialogueSession(ctx context.Context, id string, data []byte, ts time.Time, ttl time.Duration) error {
+	expires := ts.Add(ttl)
+	_, err := s.db.ExecContext(ctx, `
+		INSERT INTO dialogue_sessions (id, data, ts, ttl_ms, expires_ts) VALUES (?, ?, ?, ?, ?)
+		ON CONFLICT(id) DO UPDATE SET data       = excluded.data,
+		                              ts         = excluded.ts,
+		                              ttl_ms     = excluded.ttl_ms,
+		                              expires_ts = excluded.expires_ts`,
+		id, data, ts.UnixMilli(), ttl.Milliseconds(), expires.UnixMilli())
+	if err != nil {
+		return fmt.Errorf("save dialogue session: %w", err)
+	}
+	return nil
+}
+
+// DeleteDialogueSession — drop one session (ended, or expired).
+func (s *Store) DeleteDialogueSession(ctx context.Context, id string) error {
+	if _, err := s.db.ExecContext(ctx, `DELETE FROM dialogue_sessions WHERE id = ?`, id); err != nil {
+		return fmt.Errorf("delete dialogue session: %w", err)
+	}
+	return nil
+}
+
+// LoadDialogueSessions — return the sessions still alive at `now` and delete
+// the ones that already ran out. An expired session is dead: it never comes
+// back after a restart.
+func (s *Store) LoadDialogueSessions(ctx context.Context, now time.Time) ([]DialogueSessionRow, error) {
+	if _, err := s.db.ExecContext(ctx,
+		`DELETE FROM dialogue_sessions WHERE expires_ts <= ?`, now.UnixMilli()); err != nil {
+		return nil, fmt.Errorf("prune dialogue sessions: %w", err)
+	}
+	rows, err := s.db.QueryContext(ctx,
+		`SELECT id, data, ts, ttl_ms, expires_ts FROM dialogue_sessions ORDER BY id`)
+	if err != nil {
+		return nil, fmt.Errorf("load dialogue sessions: %w", err)
+	}
+	defer rows.Close()
+	var out []DialogueSessionRow
+	for rows.Next() {
+		var r DialogueSessionRow
+		var tsMilli, ttlMilli, expMilli int64
+		if err := rows.Scan(&r.ID, &r.Data, &tsMilli, &ttlMilli, &expMilli); err != nil {
+			return nil, fmt.Errorf("scan dialogue session: %w", err)
+		}
+		r.Ts = time.UnixMilli(tsMilli).UTC()
+		r.TTL = time.Duration(ttlMilli) * time.Millisecond
+		r.Expires = time.UnixMilli(expMilli).UTC()
+		out = append(out, r)
+	}
+	if err := rows.Err(); err != nil {
+		return nil, fmt.Errorf("load dialogue sessions: %w", err)
+	}
+	return out, nil
+}

internal/store/migrations.go

@@ -74,6 +74,15 @@ ALTER TABLE reminders ADD COLUMN next_fire_ts INTEGER;`, // #2
 	`CREATE INDEX IF NOT EXISTS idx_nudges_snoozed ON nudges (outcome_ts) WHERE outcome = 'snoozed';`, // #8 — SnoozedUntil runs every tick; keep it off a full scan (Vikunja #364)
 	`ALTER TABLE proposed_routines ADD COLUMN accepted_ts INTEGER;
 	ALTER TABLE proposed_routines ADD COLUMN last_fired_ts INTEGER;`, // #9 — accepted routines keep firing (Vikunja #366): the tick loop needs to know when a routine was accepted and when it last nudged
+
+	`CREATE TABLE IF NOT EXISTS dialogue_sessions (
+		id         TEXT PRIMARY KEY,
+		data       BLOB NOT NULL,
+		ts         INTEGER NOT NULL,
+		ttl_ms     INTEGER NOT NULL,
+		expires_ts INTEGER NOT NULL
+	);
+	CREATE INDEX IF NOT EXISTS idx_dialogue_sessions_expires ON dialogue_sessions (expires_ts);`, // #10 — the follow-up session survives a restart (Vikunja #363); small, TTL-pruned table, not a history log
 }
 
 // migrate applies every migration with a number greater than the DB's current